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Why so ANGRY!!

When I think of the words anger or angry I immediately attach a negative feeling to these words.  Why are people so angry?  What makes you angry?  Be careful, you might anger her! When the words are used in those instances, I feel that my negative attachment is justified.  People who are labeled as angry are usually thought of as abrupt, outraged, unreasonable, and intimidating.  That may be so in some cases, but then what about when someone is justifiably angry.  What about the anger that is shown when a child is abused or neglected?  What about the anger towards the big corporations for outsourcing jobs or mistreating employees while CEO’s continue to get huge paychecks and bonuses?  What about the anger over a young unarmed man being shot to death?  In these instances anger is not only a justified response, but a necessary one.  Sometimes anger is necessary to propel people to action.  Sometimes it’s necessary to hold someone accountable for wrongdoing.  There are times when anger is the motivation to move from one circumstance to another.  This last statement is what has inspired me to focus on my anger.  I have felt very angry regarding, what I felt were, injustices towards me by others.  I felt angry that someone had the power to effect my career with no thought of the repercussions that would still endure many years later.  I am angry that I have been accused of being distant and closed off, not letting people get too close, only to open up and get this nagging pain in my back from a sharp object.  I’m angry that no matter how hard I try, I seem to always be walking uphill.  I’m angry that I seem to speak quite loudly, but no one seems to hear what I’m saying.  I’m angry that I’m angry!  

The difference, I noticed, between being an angry person and feeling anger is the result.  Angry people look for vengeance.  Angry people are always finding the wrong in others without ever looking at themselves.  Angry people only find more things to be angry about.  Angry people never try to find a solution for their anger because it’s just the way they are.  They like being angry…they like the fact that people are afraid to approach them or afraid to say the wrong thing to them.  It makes them feel powerful.  The feeling of anger, on the other hand, doesn’t give one the feeling of power.  On the contrary, it makes you feel helpless, weak, at a loss, powerless to change the situation.  It makes situations feel enormous and overwhelming.  This anger stems from the injustice not from vengeance…this anger is the good anger.  When recognized for what it is, It makes people take a stand, it gives voice to victims and life to the down trodden.  That’s the anger that I will begin to use to fuel the fire of forward progress, to motivate me to move from my present situation to the purpose that God has called me to.  This anger that I feel now is like a defibrillator to a heart attack victim….it gives me the jolt that I need to write, to explore, to pursue, to dream, to master a task, and to prove that I am more than what others have perceived me to be.  I will be angry but do not fear because this anger will only grow into love, compassion, and faith.


First Find the Plank in Your Own Eye

First Find the Plank in Your Own Eye.

First Find the Plank in Your Own Eye

Luke 6:41 (NIV) “Why do you look at the speck of sawdust in your brother’s eye and pay no attention to the plank in your own eye?”

Why are we so uncomfortable with the skills and talents of others that we can’t wait to find a flaw and point it out.  Even when a flaw doesn’t necessarily exist, we are quick to manufacture or embellish something so we can feel better about our lack of talents and skills.  Case in point, Beyonce’s National Anthem Performance at the Inauguration of President Obama.  I have heard words used to describe this performance as: “scandal” “debacle” “fraud” “deceitful” among other negative adjectives.  The really sad part is that her performance was none of these things.  She is a talented and skillful performer who is aware of what effect cold temperatures, lack of sound check and practice, and a large venue can have on her voice.  She was conscious of the opportunity she was given and the magnitude of the occasion and wanted to be sure she offered nothing less than her best.  It goes without saying that her talents are authentic noting the many performances she has rendered live and recorded.  I purposely use the word Performance so many times because that is the only word I can think of to more accurately describe her singing.  This young lady had absolutely nothing to prove by taking a chance on giving less than her best.  She rightly assessed a situation and made a judgement call based on her skills, talents, and abilities not in spite of them.  And instead of defending her actions and feeling like she needed to satisfy the outcry of the negative and pessimistic people of the nation, she had them to stand during a press conference while she belted out her live rendition of The National Anthem and then quietly asked “any questions?”

How often do we find ourselves on the negative end of someone else’s insecurities?  How often are we attacked for just the slightest imperfection?  Especially given the fact that we never claimed to be perfect. How often are others quick to point a finger and say “aha, I knew they couldn’t be as good as they thought they were?”  How often have we been made to feel like we have to defend a decision we made based on our knowledge of the circumstances and our abilities?  Too often if you ask me!!  I no longer feel it is my duty to minimize my skills and talents to make someone else feel better about themselves or to lessen their insecurities.  I am a Designer’s Original and I was made to fulfill a purpose and an ultimate plan.  My diminishing myself does not serve the greater good of humanity, it is a disservice to my God.  I am meant to shine in the area that God gifted me regardless of how it makes others feel.  In using my gifts for the intents and purposes in which they were given, I am not only fulfilling my God given place in society, I am being the blessing that I was made to be.

So the next time the chorus of naysayers and negative voices begin to do their warm-ups so they can sing their songs of doom and deception, I will take a page from Ms. Beyonce: make them stand up and show them what I can do….Any questions?


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