Once again the country is caught up in the “controversy” of marriage. So many have comments and views regarding this issue, but I have yet to read one that is as poignant as this. The following is a post by my daughter Tasha Dozia-Earley:
I am sorry for those who have never experienced true love that causes great obstacle. You are all right. My marriage will destroy the sanctity of traditional marriage. I cannot change your minds and will not try. I cannot even convince my own mother that she should still love me. Why would I battle with YOU?
You are right, The Winchester Star. That little girl with straight parents in Minnesota that asked the question, “Which parent do I not need, my mom or my dad?” This is an honest question from a child being brought up to learn that my marriage will be denying her a parent. Or even better that we should not adopt because we would be denying children of a father. Considering the fact that those against an opportunity for me and my spouse to raise a child in need together, have not dedicated their lives to foster or adopt the 5,600 children in need in VIRGINIA alone.
The child we brought in to our lives struggles with our love. I struggle with love. My family has turned away, my church turned their back, I have had friends turn their back. The ONLY love outside of my marriage to learn from is Christ. He loves me and has Called my house to be for the broken. Those broken by YOU.
You are right. I shouldn’t be a wife, a parent, or a productive member of your society. But I am!
“God loves the sinner, but hates their sin.” You are right. Except the words you quote come from the mouth of a Hindu man named Ghandi.
If I based my faith off of the words that come from YOU. I would be like the thousands that believe they don’t deserve to live.
You are right to believe with your heart what you believe.
But without my pain and disowning, I would not have a story. With my story, I plan to love the motherless, the fatherless, those without a sister or brother because He first loved ME.
Sooo….I allowed some thoughts and ideas to swirl around in my head this morning about what today’s blog would be about and….Nuthin!!
Well, that’s not entirely accurate, I first thought about the senseless murder of a community business owner earlier this week and how everyone spoke of how nice this man was. Endless comments have been uttered about his kindness, his sense of humor, how much they enjoyed going in his store because he always had something to say to them, how he knew everyone, and how long he had been a fixture in the community. I really didn’t want to focus on this very sad tragic event but then I thought of the three friends that I have lost over the last few months. I went to their services and listened to everyone speak about their endearing qualities and how much they will be missed and the first thing that came to mind was this song that I heard during a commercial or something that said “say what you need to say.” This made me wonder. Do we take the time to tell those who mean something to us how much we care about them? Do we tell them how we consider them a friend or loved one and how much they have impacted our lives? Do we say what we need to say? It’s wonderful to cherish the memories of those we have cared about, loved, and lost, but how sweet it would be if the words are spoken while they can still be music to their ears.
How many people live their lives being a light in someone’s day without going out of their way to do anything special; they are just being who they are; but being who they are means the world to someone who may not get a kind word, thought, or deed sent their way any other time. That person isn’t looking for accolades or applause but just to know that someone appreciated what they did or who they were would certainly go a long way in encouraging them to continue even during those times when they are the ones who need to be lifted up.
Life is but a vapor; a fleeting moment that is here and then gone in an instant….Say what you need to say to anyone you need to say it to. Don’t wait for the candlelight vigil in their honor. Let them know now so when all is said and done and they are gone from this life, you will know that you said exactly what you needed to say exactly when you needed to say it.