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Biblical Marriage Violations: It’s not all about Same-Sex

The following is for educational purposes:

Marriage Violations Deuteronomy 22:13-29

13 If a man takes a wife and, after sleeping with her, dislikes her 14 and slanders her and gives her a bad name, saying, “I married this woman, but when I approached her, I did not find proof of her virginity,”15 then the young woman’s father and mother shall bring to the town elders at the gate proof that she was a virgin. 16 Her father will say to the elders, “I gave my daughter in marriage to this man, but he dislikes her. 17 Now he has slandered her and said, ‘I did not find your daughter to be a virgin.’ But here is the proof of my daughter’s virginity.” Then her parents shall display the cloth before the elders of the town, 18 and the elders shall take the man and punish him. 19 They shall fine him a hundred shekels[b] of silver and give them to the young woman’s father, because this man has given an Israelite virgin a bad name. She shall continue to be his wife; he must not divorce her as long as he lives.

20 If, however, the charge is true and no proof of the young woman’s virginity can be found, 21 she shall be brought to the door of her father’s house and there the men of her town shall stone her to death. She has done an outrageous thing in Israel by being promiscuous while still in her father’s house. You must purge the evil from among you.

22 If a man is found sleeping with another man’s wife, both the man who slept with her and the woman must die. You must purge the evil from Israel.

23 If a man happens to meet in a town a virgin pledged to be married and he sleeps with her, 24 you shall take both of them to the gate of that town and stone them to death—the young woman because she was in a town and did not scream for help, and the man because he violated another man’s wife. You must purge the evil from among you.

25 But if out in the country a man happens to meet a young woman pledged to be married and rapes her, only the man who has done this shall die. 26 Do nothing to the woman; she has committed no sin deserving death. This case is like that of someone who attacks and murders a neighbor, 27 for the man found the young woman out in the country, and though the betrothed woman screamed, there was no one to rescue her.

28 If a man happens to meet a virgin who is not pledged to be married and rapes her and they are discovered, 29 he shall pay her father fifty shekels[c]of silver. He must marry the young woman, for he has violated her. He can never divorce her as long as he lives.

Equality? Privilege or Right?

Once again the country is caught up in the “controversy” of marriage.  So many have comments and views regarding this issue, but I have yet to read one that is as poignant as this.  The following is a post by my daughter Tasha Dozia-Earley:


I am sorry for those who have never experienced true love that causes great obstacle. You are all right. My marriage will destroy the sanctity of traditional marriage. I cannot change your minds and will not try. I cannot even convince my own mother that she should still love me. Why would I battle with YOU?

You are right, The Winchester Star. That little girl with straight parents in Minnesota that asked the question, “Which parent do I not need, my mom or my dad?” This is an honest question from a child being brought up to learn that my marriage will be denying her a parent. Or even better that we should not adopt because we would be denying children of a father. Considering the fact that those against an opportunity for me and my spouse to raise a child in need together, have not dedicated their lives to foster or adopt the 5,600 children in need in VIRGINIA alone.

The child we brought in to our lives struggles with our love. I struggle with love. My family has turned away, my church turned their back, I have had friends turn their back. The ONLY love outside of my marriage to learn from is Christ. He loves me and has Called my house to be for the broken. Those broken by YOU.

You are right. I shouldn’t be a wife, a parent, or a productive member of your society. But I am!

“God loves the sinner, but hates their sin.” You are right. Except the words you quote come from the mouth of a Hindu man named Ghandi.

If I based my faith off of the words that come from YOU. I would be like the thousands that believe they don’t deserve to live.

You are right to believe with your heart what you believe.

But without my pain and disowning, I would not have a story. With my story, I plan to love the motherless, the fatherless, those without a sister or brother because He first loved ME.

Til Death? Really

I would like for someone to tell me why the sanctity of “Marriage” is such a controversial issue.  Some people are so hell bent on protecting this “religious institution” but fail to realize how weak the foundation of this institution has become.  We have so many people who “marry” for convenience, for publicity, for money, for lust, for so many reasons other than love and pro-creation (which is what was supposed to come after  marriage by the way).  Marriage isn’t about two people meeting, getting to know one another, spending time together, getting to know one another’s families, bonding, talking, learning who they are and then deciding that this is the one person they want to spend the rest of their lives with. Marriage has become a reality show where people pick from a buffet of men or women.  They then date, fondle, and kiss their way down the rosebush until they reach that final “one” that is their “soulmate.” (really?…hmmmm)  It’s a competition to see who can win in the end and then realizing that this person that they fought so hard for is not only someone they don’t want to spend their lives with, but they really don’t even like them.  Once the cameras stop rolling and real life begins, they are slapped in the face with the true reality that they got caught up in the moments of some really cool dates and very nice vacations and scenery and the fairy tale is over.

Marriage is something to do during a drunken night in Vegas that can be dissolved before you can say “hangover.”  Marriage is a publicity stunt when one is no longer getting enough of the limelight and needs a boost to their celebrity and/or career.  Marriage is something that is fought out in court on television for all the world to see and hear about all the “babymama” drama and who cheated on who, who took who’s money, and who didn’t live up to the other’s expectations.  Marriage is no longer this holy institution that some want to make it out to be.  If it were then the two people who stand before God and recite the vows of better or worse, richer or poorer, in sickness and in health…til DEATH DO US PART, would not need Divorce Court, Annullment Papers, Pre-nups, Mediators, or Counselors because they would remember what they vowed before GOD and that would be all that was needed.  Marriage isn’t something that is viewed as holy and sanctified (set apart) it is treated as a trend just like Pop Rocks and Leg Warmers.  It’s what’s in style one moment and so passe’ the next.

People get so up in arms when coloreds want to marry non-coloreds, Jews want to marry Gentiles, poor want to marry rich, short want to marry tall, skinny want to marry fat, women want to marry women and men want to marry men…IT’S JUST NOT NATURAL they say.  Well coloring your hair to make it blond when you were born brunette is not natural, shaving hair down there is not natural, acrylic nails are not natural, dogs and cats living in the same household is not natural, weave (don’t care how much you pay for it) is not natural…need I go on.  It’s not about whether or not people believe in the sanctity of marriage, the issue is just like kids who get a special gift and they don’t want their brother or sister to have their same toy or gift because then their’s wouldn’t be so special.  People want to feel like what they have is special and if it is available to just anybody, what makes it special?  If everybody could own a yacht what would be the big deal about owning a yacht. there would be no prestige, nothing to set them apart.  If we all lived in Mansions, they would just be referred to as really big houses because it would be available to anyone regardless of who they are or what they believed.  Marriage was not meant to make only certain people eligible to become a part of it like it is some Elite Country Club that you have to meet certain requirements to join.

States want to define marriage between one woman and one man.  Is this one woman and one man period or one woman and one man at a time because some people need clarification when it comes to that mandate.  By the way, how many of those politicians, ministers (yes, I’m calling you out too), judges, juries, and citizens have been married to only one man or one woman “til death.”  I’m just wondering really, what number wife or husband are you on?  Some of the same people that want to step up and say that marriage should be defined as between one man and one woman have discarded previous mates like stale bread because they just aren’t appealing anymore or old shoes because they just didn’t fit anymore or where no longer stylish.  Maybe I’m just not getting it.  I can think of so many other things that need defending like children who are forced to endure foster parents who only want the money and could care less about the well-being of the child.  Let me take a step back, what about parents who are continuously given public resources that they use to take better care of themselves then they do their children.  The number of divorces, single parenthood, adultery, domestic violence, child abuse and neglect is off the charts but our main focus in America is who is marrying whom.  I really would like someone to explain this to me rationally.  Why are we so protective of “Marriage?”

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