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Equality? Privilege or Right?

Once again the country is caught up in the “controversy” of marriage.  So many have comments and views regarding this issue, but I have yet to read one that is as poignant as this.  The following is a post by my daughter Tasha Dozia-Earley:


I am sorry for those who have never experienced true love that causes great obstacle. You are all right. My marriage will destroy the sanctity of traditional marriage. I cannot change your minds and will not try. I cannot even convince my own mother that she should still love me. Why would I battle with YOU?

You are right, The Winchester Star. That little girl with straight parents in Minnesota that asked the question, “Which parent do I not need, my mom or my dad?” This is an honest question from a child being brought up to learn that my marriage will be denying her a parent. Or even better that we should not adopt because we would be denying children of a father. Considering the fact that those against an opportunity for me and my spouse to raise a child in need together, have not dedicated their lives to foster or adopt the 5,600 children in need in VIRGINIA alone.

The child we brought in to our lives struggles with our love. I struggle with love. My family has turned away, my church turned their back, I have had friends turn their back. The ONLY love outside of my marriage to learn from is Christ. He loves me and has Called my house to be for the broken. Those broken by YOU.

You are right. I shouldn’t be a wife, a parent, or a productive member of your society. But I am!

“God loves the sinner, but hates their sin.” You are right. Except the words you quote come from the mouth of a Hindu man named Ghandi.

If I based my faith off of the words that come from YOU. I would be like the thousands that believe they don’t deserve to live.

You are right to believe with your heart what you believe.

But without my pain and disowning, I would not have a story. With my story, I plan to love the motherless, the fatherless, those without a sister or brother because He first loved ME.

Life’s a…..

Rarely do I take the time to engage in watching Reality Television shows because I ask myself what do I gain for my life by watching others live theirs.  However, recently I came across a short clip of the Bristol Palin, Life’s a Tripp show which entails Bristol Palin raising (I use this term loosely) her 3 yr. old son, Tripp.  In this particular clip, Tripp was having a fit because he wasn’t allowed to go to the pool.  During his tirade, Tripp repeatedly told his mother and his aunt that he hated them while swinging at and hitting his aunt.  Bristol and aunt Willow found this to be quite amusing and while giggling at the little tyke tried to discipline him by saying “don’t say that” in between chuckles.  As if this wasn’t sad enough, little Tripp then uses an “F” word.  “Go away you f—–!” the toddler says to his aunt, as Willow and Bristol cover their mouths in horror. “I don’t like you.”  Now, according to several news reports he called his aunt a “faggot.”  However, his mother denies this saying,

“He does NOT use slurs,” Palin wrote on her blog in response to the report. “Let me be clear.  I’m not proud of what he did say.  Sadly, he used a different ‘f word.'”

“Tripp is always surrounded by adults,” she continued. “He’s apparently picked up some language that I’d prefer he not use. On national television or at home.”

So this is her explanation.  Then she goes on to say, “I’ve done a terrible job disciplining Tripp,” Palin admits on the show. “I know he’s going to continue to push the boundaries.”

There are several things I find disturbing about Bristol’s statements.  Being clear that your 3 yr. old used a different “f” word because he is “always” surrounded by adults doesn’t make it okay.  Now I’m not saying that Tripp is the first 3 yr. old to drop an “f” bomb or any other lettered bomb for that matter, but to follow the statement with “He’s apparently picked up some language that I’d prefer he not use on national television or at home.” makes me wonder who is in control here.  Clearly not mom since she admits to doing a “terrible job disciplining Tripp.”  Perhaps he’s getting the wrong message because (a) he’s always surrounded by adults (b) he’s on television (c) because while he’s displaying this bad behavior his mom and aunt or giggling like middle school girls on a sleepover.

What I question is why is this considered entertainment.  Would this still be entertainment if mom’s name was LaToya Johnson or Breanna Smith?  How is showing an unwed, inexperienced, immature young woman doing a poor job of raising her son considered a good idea for television.  I’ve heard Sarah Palin criticizing others about family values and what is good for this country yet I have not seen anything in this family that I would want to emulate.  I’m thinking those who throw stones should not be named Palin.  Seriously, this child is being victimized all in the name of Capitalism because showing a well behaved well adjusted child being raised by a mother who got pregnant too young but is making the best of her situation would not bring the ratings the networks need and therefore would not pay profits.  It saddens me that not only are we seeing a child’s life being prostituted, somewhere down the line others will pay a heavy price for profits.

“I know he is going to continue to push the boundaries” she says.  If you know this than why allow it to continue.  Oh wait, I just covered that in the last paragraph.  Well, then I guess we better consider ourselves forewarned.  What is going to happen when little Tripp goes to school and doesn’t like the fact that there are rules he has to follow?  What happens when someone tells him “no” and he doesn’t like it?  What is he going to do when he grows up and realizes he is an outcast among his peers?  Maybe he will go on the internet and compile his arsenal of Glocks and Assault Rifles, don a mask and full body armor, walk onto a college campus, into a movie theater, or into a school cafeteria and determine who will live to see another day.

This final statement really sealed the deal for me.  After all was said and done, Bristol says,   “I do oppose gay marriage,” she wrote in her blog post (which I guess is important coming from her). “I guess the temptation to label my three year old son is just too great for the lefty papers to resist.”  So it is a political ploy to label her 3 year old son who she is profiting off of by making his life a television show the reason why this is such a big deal.  Was the temptation of exploiting your son for money too great of a temptation to resist?  I would hope that someone would get a clue before it is indeed too late for this child (if it’s not already).

Proverbs 22:6 states: “Train up a child in the way he should go and when he is old he will not depart from it.”

We are seeing first hand how this child is being trained let’s pray he departs from it before we have to start counting bodies.

Peace and Blessings


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